Okay, back for some heartfelt post again :) How long has it been since I sidetracked from daily to philosophy huh.... LONG!

But, let's continue with what happened today first bah.

Mainly, woke up, taught sis hw, and work. Jess msg-ed me during work, and as work was slacker than usual, had sort of chat through sms-es :D And, i also found $30 on the floor lo.. I even turned a blind eye and wait ppl go take, but no one wants...so I turned it over to the Chief Cashier. Heard I can get the $30 if no one go claim, NO ONE CLAIM PLS!!!

What is mine will be mine la...dun worry hehe :P

Okay, then on the way home, Jess suddenly msg back that she her ex called her. Asking and telling her things. she said she simply replied cold-hearted and asked me if she's heartless.....

I gave her what I thought was a perfect ans, but heartfelt opinion.

"No matter the case, if you ask me, I will tell you tat ur not heartless:) Cuz it depends. Not all couples can remain as friends after breaking up. Only some can. It does not mean those who stay as friends dun like each other enough though, just that it is up to ownself."

So...what does it mean? Why not heartless? Explaining....

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You may feel, breaking up and remaining as friends is a good ending for a break-up. But it does not happen to everyone you see.

For some, it may due to the other party having feelings yet decided to remain in friendship.
It may also that through being together, they built up a bond, which is not tat strong enough for a relationship, but for friendship, it is.
There's still one more case, where couples break-up and remain as friends, but they practically behave like there's no this person on earth. Until they came in contact with each other or etc....
Well, that's for those break-ups that end up happy ending.

For the sad ending, would be breaking up and remaining as strangers. But you can't blame them either.
After being together, having that kind of relationship... Breaking up after that and getting them to regain the normal relationship of friends is hard. There will surely be some awkwardness for them to face each other.
And rather than remaining as friends and stop contacting each other, choosing to be strangers is much more appropriate for them.

And so, it is really up to the own individual, and not for us to decide whether they are heartless or not. You can say, "You are Heartless!" But, you never know, what they did, was just an act or action to protect themselves from further harm.

Imagine. If, you remained as friends after break-up, and suddenly, he/she came to you and introduced his/her new mate, what will you feel?

Jealous?
"Why you choose to break with me and find someone worst than me?"
OR
"She's better than me yes, but can compare to the feelings i had for you?"

Happy?
"Wow, she's not bad, wish you everlasting love:)"

Angry?
"You show me ur ex, your lover for what! Show off?"

Sad?
"Oh ok" Introduce and walk off saying got something on.

Whichever of this emotions you have, there will surely be some hurt dealt. UNLESS! You no longer feel anything towards him/her, no love, no nth, just that bond of friendship.

And so, everyone or even animals, tends to protect themselves first before everything, when they are alone. So, being heartless to other people may be an act to protect self from harm.

That's why I don't feel that Jess's heartless or anything. Talking about chances given to her ex, she gave quite enough. Even the chance to patch back was given, but he nvr cherish. Therefore, what's there to say?
He is heartless in the first place, so even if Jess is really heartless to him now, he ownself deserve it.
If he wants to remain as friends with Jess, I have no objections, just that it is up to the individual, Jess to decided.

But, here I am saying, to all and also to her: "Do not regret the decision that you made. Think of it carefully, and once you decided, there is no turning back. Things like backup plan or Plan B does not happen in reality. At least not in the journey of life. Yes, there are, but only in situations that can be planned. When dealing with human hearts, feelings, mind, there can never be a Plan B where everything will go smoothly cause, Human feelings are hard to predict......."